My daughter is getting married next fall. Her husband comes from a traditional and fundamentalist family, (although he is an agnostic) He wants her to change her name. She’s a PhD candidate and is very keen on keeping it. She told me, “I’ve done all this work as Sarah Arthur, and I want to be Dr. Arthur. I have no desire to give the credit for my work to some person who doesn’t even exist.” She is trying to convince her husband how antiquated and ridiculous it is for a woman to give up her name. For God’s sake, it’s OUR name. Why should we be forced to give it away? FYI, I got married at 30, and as a medical professional, I refused to give up my name. And there was NEVER any confusion. My children have their father’s surname, but I gave them my surname as a second middle name. Because I love my name and I wanted it to last another generation.

Here’s hoping her finance get’s his head out of his butt and realizes how stupid he’s being.